Thursday, March 10, 2005


Am I took picky?

I ask him to make reservation to Blue Ribbon Sushi because I always do that kind of little things and I am sick of not being appreciated. Some site points out they don't take reservation. I think it's safer to call restaurant to make sure (because sites could have error). He called and they confirm indeed they don't take reservation. And he proceeds to hang up. In my mind it was clear it would be useful information to know when the restaurant starts to fill up so perhaps we can go before that (since they don't take reservation). But gathering that information doesn't occur to him.

That bothers me. I know it's a small thing and it really doesn't matter because he can call back again to ask (which he had to).

But that train of thinking extends to everything he does and that is what bothers me. How can i trust him to be looking out for details that could make a big difference when I am in the delivery room and too pre-occupied to pay attention myself? Or if I am too sick and leave the children in his care?

Perhaps he's like that because he was not trained to pay attention to detail. My growing up required me to learn that faster. He's never had to learn that. He's just too provided for and too lucky in life.

I know people say "don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff". But the truth of matter is, I think small stuff tells you a lot about a person. Small stuff is what makes a successful (not necessarily in material achievement way) people different than ordinary people.

1 comment:

ben said...

Hey. Sounds like you are pretty frustrated. I think it is normal to have the desire to be understood--especially by your very own husband. I don't want to sound stereotypical, but guys generally suck at attention to details. It's how they are made. Sure, they could learn to be more attentive to details. Then the next thing you know they're stuck in Minot, ND for 5 years LOL. Do you think it's a lack of effort more so than the fact that he's not good with details that's bothering you? I have known other couples, who were less introspective and aware of the problem, go through the same thing. I think you guys will do alright...